momof7
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Kris -- wife to Paul, mom of 7, Paul Jr (PJ), Caryn, Andrew, Samuel, Daniel, Jacob and Saul.
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Post by momof7 on Apr 22, 2020 20:04:24 GMT -6
Between the kids mostly home distance learning at home. Everyone is on top of each other, the house perpetually untidy, everyone is edgy...meals have gotten so dull (as if they all expect a 5 star meal at each meal).
I'm ready to run away from home, except nothing is open and there's no place to go.
Please tell me I'm not alone...
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Post by jennilee on Apr 23, 2020 6:58:23 GMT -6
Oh, Kris, no, you are not alone!
Admittedly, some of the children aren't at home so we, thankfully, aren't on top of one another, but the house is still perpetually untidy and DH is especially edgy. As much as I love to cook, I'm getting slightly tired of it. hahaha. Before all this mess happened, the children and I went out to eat with my in laws on Fridays and DH would hang out with some of his friends. I miss that terribly.
I have projects that need doing, but no motivation to do them. Crafting I want to do, but again, no motivation.
Just so blah!
*hugs*
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Post by mentalutopia on Apr 23, 2020 19:28:28 GMT -6
We set up a tent in the backyard and I'm ready to go live in it.
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Post by roseofsharon on Apr 23, 2020 19:32:23 GMT -6
Sounds like my household; we are not used to being together this much; daughter is attempting to finish her senior year college courses online and it's hard when you are a Biochemistry major; your life is labs, not online learning! She is stressing over all that, which in turn stresses me out because I am her sounding board.
One thing about it, we're all in this together and somehow at some point, we are going to come out stronger than ever. We just have to get thru the downs and ups right now best we can.
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Post by motherhoodcontinued on Apr 24, 2020 7:26:06 GMT -6
I am eternally struggling but it has gotten worse. At first our life had not changed much other than skipping our weekly take out (my night off), missing the library and my formerly homeschooled but now in public school teen being home. Then my husband's work started messing with his schedule. Everything in my house started breaking. My grocery shopping has to be kept brief and my 4yo and 2yo have to stay in the car with their brother while I do it. I've lost motivation to do much of anything besides cook lackluster meals, keep the dishes washed, homeschool the littles and breath! A lot of it is just the disrupted schedule and stress of the unknown. Hang in there ladies!
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Post by belldandy on Apr 24, 2020 9:05:18 GMT -6
We set up a tent in the backyard and I'm ready to go live in it. I'm ready to join you.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2020 10:20:42 GMT -6
I mostly struggle with my autistic child. He went from 8 therapists/teachers and 35+ hours of services a week to 1 therapist and spotty hours. There was one weekend that was so extremely bad (probably picking up on the stress of my brother dying) and Logan was self-harming so much we thought he had a concussion. We ended up taking him to the ER and his head is fine, but the hospital got to witness how violent he can be. They ended up giving him a sedative and having a CPS worker chat with my husband. The CPS told him we can actually call the police on our own child if it's more than we can handle. I can't ever fathom doing that! Thankfully things haven't gotten that bad again, and we do have a prescription for sedatives at home. Hoping we never have to use it... but if he goes 21 hours straight of physical harm, we definitely will give him some. I'll admit I have a headache right now, from where Logan slammed his head into my face half an hour ago and I'm just praying it doesn't become a migraine. The last one laid me up for 6 days. Having my husband and other children around isn't a big deal at all, I'm used to it between homeschooling them and Chris having summers off. Longest spring/summer break this year. And yes, my house is a perpetual mess.
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Post by oma on Apr 24, 2020 11:21:33 GMT -6
My problems seem so petty after reading what some of you ladies are going through. My biggest concern is my aging parents and the worry that they'll get sick. I hate that I can't see and hug them but at least we can talk on the phone. I miss being able to go to church but we do Zoom on Sundays so that's a blessing for us. Ladies I'll be adding each of you to my prayer list. I feel so helpless when I see what's happening to our communities and around the world, but I can still pray. And I will...for each member of PH.
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Post by MammaMel on Apr 26, 2020 11:06:44 GMT -6
For me, nothing really has changed much. I prefer to be at home. My town has only had about 45 positive tests and only 1 death. So this thing has not really impacted us. I think it will be worse in the fall, when we have this AND flu to deal with.
What can we do to help each other get through it?
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Post by eyeofthestorm on Apr 26, 2020 12:09:40 GMT -6
I made this in the hopes it will help us avoid missing things online:
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Post by mountainma on Apr 27, 2020 15:38:27 GMT -6
I can relate to the untidy house and crowded feeling. I've been off work since this started and don't know if I'll get back to work once it's over. Dd1 isn't working due to health problems, and dd2 is home from college without a job. She works at the college and it is currently closed. Dh is the only one working and the stress is making him cranky and difficult to be around. Our water bill has drastically increased due to a rate hike plus having a college kid home, the grocery bill has increased with everyone being home, and three of the four of us are without jobs at the moment. Last week the motor on our septic system went out and we paid over $600 to have that taken care of. Then over the weekend, we had a leak under our only toilet and that had to be fixed. I was trying hard to stay positive, then my recliner broke. I have had to sleep in a recliner ever since a car wreck almost 4 years ago. I have lots of swelling and must keep my legs elevated. These recliners are NOT cheap. So now I am exhausted from no sleep the last couple of nights, extra swelling, and a big added expense of a new chair, providing we can even find a place that's open where we can try to find one. Can I just have a meltdown??
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momof7
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Kris -- wife to Paul, mom of 7, Paul Jr (PJ), Caryn, Andrew, Samuel, Daniel, Jacob and Saul.
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Post by momof7 on Apr 27, 2020 20:31:28 GMT -6
Oh wow when I started this thread I had no idea how not alone I was!
Thanks everyone. Mountain mamma....oh could I relate! We had toilet issues too recently.
Hope everything improves for everyone.
We can get through this, even if it seems like it’s never going to end.
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Post by hidi74 on Apr 27, 2020 22:33:56 GMT -6
Yes, yes, and yes. It’s cray here. Even though we homeschool we are NEVER home this much. The kids miss everything. I miss everything. I miss my parents. My dad has been having some major health issues which included a hospital stay that he doesn’t even remember. The hospital was awful and didn’t even realize he was a bit delirious and missed telling them half his meds when he was there. Mom wasn’t allowed in so it was just a big mess. He is now home but I need a hug. It was super scary. My husband is working from home five days a week now. Normally it’s only two. He is cranky. He may end up furloughed after this week so we are scared. Very scared. I am just over all this. My sweet Anna has infusions at the hospital once a month and has gotten to where she looks forward to them just to see people. Hurts my heart. All this hurts my heart. I keep trying to find stuff to keep me busy. Baking bread, planting a garden etc.
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momof7
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Kris -- wife to Paul, mom of 7, Paul Jr (PJ), Caryn, Andrew, Samuel, Daniel, Jacob and Saul.
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Post by momof7 on Apr 29, 2020 19:47:46 GMT -6
For me, nothing really has changed much. I prefer to be at home. My town has only had about 45 positive tests and only 1 death. So this thing has not really impacted us. I think it will be worse in the fall, when we have this AND flu to deal with.
What can we do to help each other get through it? This worries me as well. I think it’s going to hit some areas very hard. I guess all we can do is hope local and state governments are preparing.
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Post by Poohbaah on Apr 29, 2020 20:55:10 GMT -6
I'm struggling as well. A few weeks ago it was real bad. I generally am a homebody but I like the option to leave! I miss my church family. We stopped homeschooling due to me working third shift because I wasn't sleeping so I'm not used to the distance learning and all four of our younger kids being home all day. I'm also very sad because this was my 5th graders last year of elementary school and she is missing her graduation, her special class party and all the fun things. She will never walk the halls as a elementary student again. DH hasn't been able to work so thankfully we have my job and I have been working overtime. I'll be happy when I can see my parents for longer than it takes to drop off groceries to them and I haven't seen my older kids who have moved out in almost two months.
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