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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2020 10:03:46 GMT -6
Hi Ladies,
I know I haven't posted in forever on PH.
My mom is still in her lawsuit, and now she's getting sued by somebody else because of my father's actions. (She got lumped in because her name is on the title.)
The saddest news I have though is my brother Ben died last month. In late January he suddenly fell over at Costco and broke his arm. He also started throwing up everything he was eating. He dropped down to 160 pounds (at 6'5" tall, was 256 the summer before) by the time they could confirm that he had a very rare and unfixable peritoneal disease. They only had one suggestion, and it helped him for 1.5 weeks before he was throwing up large amounts of blood. Anyhow, knowing that he was out of options, Ben elected to stop his dialysis and die at home. Thankfully it was one of the more peaceful passing I've witnessed.
There's also some videos of him being "interviewed" about 2 weeks before he died... I don't know what's actually on them, as watching them makes me cry too much. But if you're interested, I'll be happy to share the link.
I hope you all have been having a better 2020, despite the quarantine.
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Post by MammaMel on Apr 24, 2020 11:55:35 GMT -6
Oh Leah, I am so sorry for your loss!
I hope things get settled with your mom soon. Other than that how are you and your family doing?
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Post by eyeofthestorm on Apr 24, 2020 13:24:26 GMT -6
Leah, I'm so sorry to learn of Ben's passing. And, like Mel, I hope that your mother is soon extricated from the lawsuit.
It's good to see you back.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2020 19:31:50 GMT -6
I hope things get settled with your mom soon. Other than that how are you and your family doing?
Well, I just have to say 2020 has been a trying year all around.
In February my dog started turning vicious... we had slow hints that something wasn't quite right. Increase bathroom usage at night (2-5 times a night), she started getting more and more aggressive to strangers and other dogs (at an age where the breed is known to calm down), and then she attacked my oldest right under his eye because he was breaking apart some food for him and his sister (why not his hands, or the food itself?). We were trying to figure out if it was a one time fluke, or if we had an actual problem, when she scaled the 6 foot chainlink fence to attack a dog walking by our house. She also started losing weight and looking gaunt, despite us free feeding her. She had a blood test at the vet 4 months before, and it didn't reveal any issues. So... I made the decision to put her down, for the safety of my children, and anybody walking by our house.
It was really hard on me, because she and I had a very good rapport. She was by far the easiest dog I've ever trained, and I retaught all her commands in sign language. I'm still not sure what went wrong, or what I could have done differently. I did my research, I knew the problem spots with Pyrenees, I was able to work through those... but this was something I had not encountered in either my previous ownership of dogs or in my researches. I just have to think there was some hidden issue that wouldn't be found with a typical vet visit. She was 80 pounds when she died, which is underweight for the breed. She was a big girl too, liked to jump up and put her paws on my shoulders and get some extra face to face loving.
I also have some anger issues to work through regarding my father. It was already a fragile relationship with him suing my mom... but he ended up choosing not to make the effort to come and see Ben before he died. I truly cannot wrap my head around that, I know I would bend over backwards to say goodbye to my own child if they were dying. So many aunts and uncles came to say goodbye to Ben (including my dad's brother)... but he couldn't come for his own son, not for 1 day, not for 1 hour. Every time I think I've let go of the anger, it comes back... I suspect that's partly how I grieve the loss of Ben, turning it into anger towards our father's actions.
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Post by jennilee on Apr 24, 2020 20:54:07 GMT -6
Leah, I am so sorry to hear of your loss and having to put your dog down Praying the year gets better for you (once the virus settles down)
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Post by mountainma on Apr 27, 2020 15:50:07 GMT -6
I am truly sorry for the loss of your brother and your dog.
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Post by Poohbaah on Apr 28, 2020 20:51:04 GMT -6
Leah, I am so sorry to hear of the losses you have had this year. Praying for you!
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Post by ginakay57 on May 1, 2020 17:18:59 GMT -6
I'm so sorry you lost your brother and your dog. Hugs I pray things settle down for you. I have two Pyrenees who just turned one yr old.
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