Post by eyeofthestorm on Aug 26, 2022 6:12:20 GMT -6
DS1 started college classes last week. He is enjoying them, and he is very focused. And he has been shocked by the homework. (I went through the same thing as a college freshman, and warned him, but you know - it's different when you experience it yourself.)
Last March, we went to a workshop at a camp north of here, and we all had a great weekend.
There's another in October that DH, DS2, DS3, and I will attend. I had asked DS1 before registering, but, as I expected, he will not be able to go.
But... our church is having a retreat (worship, fellowship, fun and games) at the same camp over Labor Day weekend. I asked DS1 about it... and was a little surprised at how FIRMLY he said he wanted to go. Normally, he only attends worship and SUnday School (with DH and I). He will go to church social activities with us and enjoys them, but he doesn't wnt to participate in any other activities, at least for now. (I think it really doesn't help that he graduated during COVID and EVERY person his age went away to college. There aren't even any activities currently for adults his age because he's the only one between 18 and 22 who's there every weekend in what's a pretty big church. And I think he's more than a little shy about the next age group.) But he was very firm he wanted to attend the retreat. To be honest, most of the activities are right up his ally. A giant slip and slide (for adults, not just kids). That's pretty much him (and DS2).
ANYWAY.
Yesterday, he told me that he doesn't think he should go. He has SO much homework. I pointed out that he has to eat and sleep. He could do that up there and study in the beautiful camp. He agreed he could study his textbooks, but he pointed out that most of his homework and everything he has to turn in is online. The camp has very, very lmited internet access (intentionally, so that people can unplug).
So.... while *I* think he could benefit from a short break atfer three weeks of classes, I also don't want to discourage him from being responsible.
Anyway, I'm just sad that we won't all be going, and that he will essentially be here totally alone for the weekend. Well, except for the dogs, but that's not quite the same.
Last March, we went to a workshop at a camp north of here, and we all had a great weekend.
There's another in October that DH, DS2, DS3, and I will attend. I had asked DS1 before registering, but, as I expected, he will not be able to go.
But... our church is having a retreat (worship, fellowship, fun and games) at the same camp over Labor Day weekend. I asked DS1 about it... and was a little surprised at how FIRMLY he said he wanted to go. Normally, he only attends worship and SUnday School (with DH and I). He will go to church social activities with us and enjoys them, but he doesn't wnt to participate in any other activities, at least for now. (I think it really doesn't help that he graduated during COVID and EVERY person his age went away to college. There aren't even any activities currently for adults his age because he's the only one between 18 and 22 who's there every weekend in what's a pretty big church. And I think he's more than a little shy about the next age group.) But he was very firm he wanted to attend the retreat. To be honest, most of the activities are right up his ally. A giant slip and slide (for adults, not just kids). That's pretty much him (and DS2).
ANYWAY.
Yesterday, he told me that he doesn't think he should go. He has SO much homework. I pointed out that he has to eat and sleep. He could do that up there and study in the beautiful camp. He agreed he could study his textbooks, but he pointed out that most of his homework and everything he has to turn in is online. The camp has very, very lmited internet access (intentionally, so that people can unplug).
So.... while *I* think he could benefit from a short break atfer three weeks of classes, I also don't want to discourage him from being responsible.
Anyway, I'm just sad that we won't all be going, and that he will essentially be here totally alone for the weekend. Well, except for the dogs, but that's not quite the same.