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Post by mountainma on Sept 9, 2022 7:16:22 GMT -6
Something has been gnawing at me for quite a while and I'd like to hear your thoughts on the matter. In the last several years, I've given many, many gifts for graduations, weddings/bridal showers, and baby showers. There have been maybe 30 instances of this. Sometimes I give money, sometimes a nice new gift, sometimes a gift I've made myself (especially for baby showers.) This is not cheap and it takes time and money.
I can count on ONE HAND the times the recipient has actually told me thank you or bothered to send a thank you card. It's to the point I don't even want to acknowledge the milestone or invitations anymore. Once in a while my dh will ask a member of the family if they got their gift and they might say to "tell her we got it." THEY could easily pick up the phone and tell me!
Is this just a sign of the times? I was always taught to say thank you, always, and to write a thank you card for gifts from special occasions like weddings, baby showers, and graduation.
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Post by michelle on Sept 9, 2022 7:34:57 GMT -6
Sometimes people send me thank you notes, sometimes they don't. Actually, more times than not lately I have actually been receiving them. Though not for kids birthdays, but then, we're there for them opening the gifts and they thank us then.
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Post by eyeofthestorm on Sept 9, 2022 9:43:58 GMT -6
I think it is a combination of issues. - People are just.plain.too.busy. Everyone I know is doing too much.
- People - especially young people - just don't (quite literally) write.
For my part, my handwriting is pretty poor. For years, I have composed my thank you's using a computer, printing and sending them (either as letters or cards). While I've gotten some good responses, I have learned this made some people very, very uncomfortable. I can't say why, but it was uncomfortable for me to see my note caused distress when I only intended to express appreciation. It doesn't stop me - I'd rather send you a computer printed card than one you can't read (or, of course, no card at all).
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Post by ginakay57 on Sept 9, 2022 18:33:14 GMT -6
It honestly irritates me when people donβt acknowledge they have even received the gift. I think only once, that I remember, have I received a thank you note. Most gifts are given in person so they thank me then. The grandkids are getting better at thanking me when they receive their gifts but I had to get on to them before they started. My goddaughter is 22 and never acknowledges even receiving her gifts.
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Post by roseofsharon on Sept 9, 2022 19:30:25 GMT -6
It's positively irritating. If they aren't going to send a written thank you note, at least acknowledge the gift to you. I have given gifts, hosted showers and probably received 10% thank you's/acknowledgements--if that many. I would accept a text or email or even messenger for a thank you. Just acknowledge my time and effort in selecting your gift.
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