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Post by mountainma on Jan 7, 2023 13:15:26 GMT -6
What, in your opinion, should you charge an adult child to live at home, in order to teach them how to adult and how to help out with expenses?
We charged our girls a small fee for gasoline once they turned 18 and needed transportation for work. This didn't last long because dd1's illness makes her unable to have a steady job, and dd2 went off to college, then got married.
Currently we're helping a young lady get on her feet after escaping a bad situation. She's been with us over a month and we've absorbed that cost in our very frugal home, not asking for any reimbursement. Now that she's started working, we will ask for some compensation to cover her transportation (she doesn't have a license yet--we're working on that) and for the extra cost of our water and food, etc. Technically she does have assistance with food, but she eats her own and ours about equally, depending on space in the fridge and depending on time factors.
We want to be fair so she can save up for her own vehicle and eventually her own apartment. At the same time, it's expensive to take on another adult in the house, plus time consuming to drive her to work and appointments and such.
How do we figure out what is fair for everyone?
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Post by eyeofthestorm on Jan 7, 2023 13:55:22 GMT -6
This is a tough one. We have not been charging DS1 anything because he has either been working full time (saving for a car, which he eventually bought for cash) or working part time while attending school full time. Right now, I'm sure DH and I are inclined to keep it this way as long as he's in school and behaving so responsibly.
But...
When he bought that car, we were proud that he paid cash and that he really did his research for a small, electric hybrid car and waited until he found one that was both available and a good buy. He also got his own car insurange at the same time (which is astronomical). It was a big help to get another car (soon we will have five drivers, and it's getting tricky again to get people where they need to be). And then I got the electric bill 🤦🏻♀️ Out electric usage went up, along with the cost. Duh! He's charging the car! Before, DH and I were a little concerned because DS paid for all the gas he used and the truck he drove does not get good mileage. Now he's saving even more... because we are paying the electric bill! Seriously, DH and I discussed this. We are pretty sure DS is paying MORE in insurance now than he used to pay in gas; that said, once he is working full time in his industry and finished school (or if he decides to take time off school), we're going to ask him to pay the difference in the electric bill.
So, even food aside, there are little ways that the bills go up: water, gas (heating), laundry (more water and electricity).
A gentleman I know at church who is just a little older than me told us that when he was 18, his dad starting charging him $50/month for rent... before he even had a job! He said that really jumpt started him on earning money and thinking about how he spent it. He pointed out that $50 wasn't even a lot of money, but it seemed like a lot of money to him, so it did the trick.
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Post by grammea on Jan 19, 2023 10:16:56 GMT -6
Luke 3:11 Whoever has two tunics should share one and the same for food If we are to do that for strangers how much more should we do for our own? Food should not be measured or owned. Having said that perhaps a modest amount for “room and board” is reasonable
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