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Post by merrileem on May 2, 2020 11:02:55 GMT -6
Well, virus or no, I came to the end of my rope yesterday. I found a facility in a nearby town that is willing to place Darrell, and he is currently back in lockdown at the same hospital he was at last time. I wanted to wait, but the daily violence was no longer tolerable. He dislocated Ryan's thumb, gave him an asthma attack trying to hold him down to keep him from running outside naked, and my carpal tunnel is flared up big time after he wrenched my wrist while trying to keep him from having a bowel movement in the shower instead of on the toilet. The whole day was one long nightmare. He will NOT be coming back home. I spent the morning packing up all his things. I won't be on much til it heals up, but no matter what the consequences financially it has to be better than the stress Ryan and I have been living with. Please pray for us. So many facilities have had major Covid outbreaks, and I hate having to send him off in the middle of this, but really.
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Post by jennilee on May 2, 2020 15:49:07 GMT -6
Oh, honey. *hugs* Prayers going up.
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Post by mentalutopia on May 2, 2020 18:04:19 GMT -6
You need to be safe. You're doing the right thing.
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Post by leah on May 2, 2020 20:23:04 GMT -6
Echoing what Elizabeth said... you need to be safe. We have no doubt you've cared for Darrell until you truly cannot be safe. And taking him to the hospital is the safest thing possible, all around.
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Post by ginakay57 on May 2, 2020 21:37:56 GMT -6
Hugs; you have done everything you could to keep him home but your and Ryan's safety has to come first.
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Post by puppymom on May 3, 2020 8:37:21 GMT -6
You and Ryan need to be safe. Sending prayers and positive thoughts.
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Post by ilovemykids on May 3, 2020 9:45:13 GMT -6
You definitely did the right thing. Darrell will be fine in the facility and they will make sure he doesn't harm himself or others.
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Post by mountainma on May 3, 2020 9:48:38 GMT -6
I'm so sorry. I know it was a hard decision, but you've done the best thing for all of you. Hugs and prayers!
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Post by eyeofthestorm on May 3, 2020 15:46:26 GMT -6
Big hugs and prayers, Merrileem.
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Post by MammaMel on May 4, 2020 8:37:26 GMT -6
Hugs Honey. Now perhaps you will have some time to heal. I know it will be rough not being able to visit at least for a while but I think you did the right thing.
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Post by susanann on May 5, 2020 8:30:16 GMT -6
That sounds so hard Merrileem, like everyone else I think you have definitely done the right thing. You now have time to rest and heal, and in time you'll be able to visit, putting you in my prayers.
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Post by merrileem on May 8, 2020 10:07:54 GMT -6
Well, it seems I may have waited a bit too long to get Darrell placed in a facility. Sad to say, once they get aggressive and violent, no one wants to take them. If I had managed to get placement after his last hospitalization, it would have been easy, and once placed, they have to keep them. But no one wants a violent patient. But I have been assured that they will NOT release him back home if I feel he is a threat, so however long it may take, he won't be coming home. I have run into so many roadblocks trying to contact government agencies it is ridiculous. All the shutdowns have made it all but impossible to get things done that I MUST do to get any financial assistance. I decided to give myself a short break til Monday; at least I have done all I can do on my end with the VA and social services. Department of vital statistics and social security is another matter. Sigh.
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Post by PinkCarnation on May 26, 2020 11:44:50 GMT -6
So very sorry Merrileem. Hope you hear some good news this week in having Daryl placed permanently. Will be praying for you. This must be so very hard for you.
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