Post by mountainma on Mar 20, 2024 8:58:11 GMT -6
Is it wrong to pray that God will just take someone home? Is it selfish? Unkind?
My father-in-law's dementia is rapidly increasing. It's to the point he only recognizes a very few people, and even then, only briefly. He cannot stand or walk now and spends the day in a wheelchair. The assisted living facility is not allowed to keep the sides up on the beds, per government rules, which just means the older people fall out of bed and get hurt, so he spends the day in a wheelchair. He doesn't know where he is or what he's doing and physically can do little but eat and dress himself. Every week it's another trip to the hospital from falling (they can't strap them in wheelchairs, either?!) and the doctors want to run up big bills for more tests that will accomplish NOTHING. Of course this requires hours and hours of family taking off work to take him to the ER or medical appointments, staying with him, etc. At this point, he WON'T ever get better. He wants to go "home" to heaven to be with his wife and all the loved ones he's outlived. It's hard on the family. It's hard on him. I hate seeing him go through this and watching the family drama unfold as you find out who truly cares and who just wants him to die so they can grab anything of value. It's causing family division. It's exhausing everyone. It's causing strain on our marriage and home (dh is rarely home except to sleep.)
I'm at the point I'm just praying God will go ahead and take him. Is this wrong? I want to honor my father-in-law in every way possible, but it would be a relief for everyone, even him.
My father-in-law's dementia is rapidly increasing. It's to the point he only recognizes a very few people, and even then, only briefly. He cannot stand or walk now and spends the day in a wheelchair. The assisted living facility is not allowed to keep the sides up on the beds, per government rules, which just means the older people fall out of bed and get hurt, so he spends the day in a wheelchair. He doesn't know where he is or what he's doing and physically can do little but eat and dress himself. Every week it's another trip to the hospital from falling (they can't strap them in wheelchairs, either?!) and the doctors want to run up big bills for more tests that will accomplish NOTHING. Of course this requires hours and hours of family taking off work to take him to the ER or medical appointments, staying with him, etc. At this point, he WON'T ever get better. He wants to go "home" to heaven to be with his wife and all the loved ones he's outlived. It's hard on the family. It's hard on him. I hate seeing him go through this and watching the family drama unfold as you find out who truly cares and who just wants him to die so they can grab anything of value. It's causing family division. It's exhausing everyone. It's causing strain on our marriage and home (dh is rarely home except to sleep.)
I'm at the point I'm just praying God will go ahead and take him. Is this wrong? I want to honor my father-in-law in every way possible, but it would be a relief for everyone, even him.